Bribing a child with money, candy, or outings teaches them manipulation. It also shows them that you are willing to negotiate, which will start them saying things like, "What will you give me if I do...?"
It is easier at times to bribe a child, since the results are immediate and it is much easier than having to discipline them for not doing what you asked. But in the long run, you will lose your voice; your words won't be enough incentive. The other side of a bribe is a threat: "Do this or you'll be sorry!" With bribes and threats, the kids have you negotiating with them.
Instead, give them certain tasks and rules that are non-negotiable; then be consistent with the consequences for breaking the rules. The best way to motivate kids is by giving them words of appreciation or praise.
From: "365 Ways To Raise Great Kids" by Sheila Ellison
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